Dating After Divorce – You CAN Do It!

Posted on July 10, 2012

Stop scratching your head and asking your reflection in the mirror, “Why did this happen?” and “Where did the last 12 years of my life go?” Stop crying, because puffy eyes and drippy nose are not attractive. Do not feel sorry for yourself. Do not look back. And do not wonder how you could have made it different. You shouldn’t, you mustn’t and you couldn’t!

It’s a new day. You are as free as a bird to pursue other prospects – and there are many fish in that big pond out there. You need to kick yourself into high gear and start considering all the possibilities! Time to use that beak to pluck a new fish out of the cool, clear waters.

Make Yourself Marketable

Peripheral vision is good, but this is a time when you need to focus your attention on putting one foot in front of the other and getting to where you need to be. Boys and girls, if you’ve let yourself go, now’s the time to trim down, buff up, wardrobe shop and primp a little. Not only is it about your appearance but how you feel inside. When you feel good, you look good – and when you look good you feel great.

Feeling a Bit Rusty? Get Out the WD40!

Dating may have changed since you were first married. The principles may be the same but the format is different. Life has become faster: at times an absolute blur. Online dating is one of the most common ways to meet someone for the first time. You might find it overwhelming but don’t let the newness of it throw you. Jump in with both feet and start swimming. There are some precautions you might want to take in this fast paced dating world.

• Take some time to get to know the person by starting off with email contact.
• Do not give your last name or any other personal information until you are comfortable.
• Google search the person once you have a last name and location. This is important for women dating.
• Once you do give out your cell phone number and set up a date, meet your date at a coffee house or restaurant. Your home address should remain private until you’ve met a few times.

Only time can heal the emotional disruption that divorce is, but by getting out and socializing you will feel better faster. The move you need to make is not a physical one but an internal one. Move on and start your new life! Your comments are welcome and appreciated. Please visit us on Facebook or you can always find us online at Twitter